We all have ways of seeking it, whether we admit it or not. And if I’m being honest, I know the ways I do it. If I feel as though things are “off,” I get a bit antsy. *cue running mind and worst-case scenario thinking.* It’s not fun. But sometimes it tells us something necessary about ourselves. We’re all still figuring it out, but maybe that’s the point.
Finding the source of our anxieties and pitfalls can be terrifying, but the growing pains shouldn’t stop us from being in the present. Personally, I’ve missed opportunities because I was either a) overthinking the next step b) being so open-minded that I couldn’t decide or c) overanalyzing to death. None of these are healthy coping mechanisms, so I often decide to go back to the drawing board.
I quickly realize I’m only harming my personal growth when I don’t pay attention and put my eggs into too many baskets. I’m a step-by-step kind of person, and overwhelm is a real thing. Yes, I’m that “I just have a lot of feelings” person. It doesn’t make me weak and it doesn’t mean I can’t process – it just means I have to know myself better. And strive for improvement. If I don’t know myself, how can I help anyone else? I ask myself this in the shower, car, and at the gym, because clearly that’s where all my deepest thoughts happen. And man, when I discover these thought nuggets, it’s downright cathartic.
We all have our ways of dealing with this life. Maybe we have a work situation that won’t relent. Or perhaps we are having relationship issues. Or maybe we have trouble with daily decisions and are struck with paralysis by analysis at times when we really shouldn’t be. ** this is me** I digress.
For some, working out is the way to go. I fall into this category. Sure, I’m not a size zero (nor do I plan to be), but I still wholeheartedly believe in the power of a good workout and the endorphins they produce. Coming from an athletic background, it also just doesn’t feel right if I don’t get my body moving in some way, shape or form. And I did still love me a good volleyball, basketball, or softball sesh. It brings me back to my roots and creates a sense of familiarity. And that brings me an insane amount of peace.
Maybe for others it’s food. This ties in with the fitness category, but it’s something we all should talk about. We all have those body insecurities. And for those that don’t, I challenge you to lift those up that do. Because it’s not an easy battle to fight on your own. Words can hurt and people should know that their positive impact can make a difference. I’m guilty of taking words to heart too much and being too sensitive, but I also try to turn them into lessons. ** work in progress, always**
Or perhaps you need intellectual stimulation or alone time to process, and you’re just not getting it. I also frequently come across this situation. Yes, I love people. Yes, I get energy from others. But I also need to write things down in order to make sense of them. I could write all day and be perfectly content with it. But realistically, life moves fast. And as much as I want to escape it sometimes, I have to confront things head-on. Because life doesn’t move at my own cadence. There are so many things beyond my control, and I have to be still and know. But that also means I have the freedom to write, read, and process when I need to.
Another avenue for people is music. MAN – this is what keeps me going. I can think, feel, allude and process when I hear a good song. I love hearing new tunes. My Shazam app is all sorts of busy. And my Spotify looks as if a drunk person tapped on a bunch of random playlists and decided it would be acceptable. And I’m perfectly okay with it. Rap? Yes. Old school country? Absolutely. Musicals and podcasts? You best believe. Music doesn’t judge. The lyrics are relatable on every level. Poetry is the most beautiful thing on the planet. The heart knows before the mind, but the mind tries to take the reigns. But in music, nothing is black or white. And I absolutely love it.
Humor is another A-maz-ing outlet. Memes on memes. Comedy stations & podcasts, oh my. We get so serious about the things we are doing & fail to see the tiny goodness in laughter. I want my life to be filled with good times, good friends, wittiness, humor, and all puns necessary.
What are you trying to control? Maybe it’s a relationship. Or perhaps an image you’re trying to protect. Whatever the obstacle, I challenge you to trust. Trust in what the Lord is doing in your life. It’s a step-by-step process: it doesn’t happen by the snap of finger. God doesn’t make mistakes, even though we do. If you’re feeling bogged down by hurt or regret, don’t forget to reach out to others in need. You never know when someone’s silent struggle can be relinquished by your verbal assurance. Use your voice. It’s your most powerful tool.
Proverbs 3:5-6 NIV “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways submit to Him, and He will make your paths straight.”
Psalm 46:10 NIV “Be still, and know that I am God…”